5 Remarkable lessons my mum taught me

It's the beginning of another great week. Yesterday (Sunday), was mother's day and different people were speaking and writing about mum's. I wonder how many pictures of mum's were circulated round the Internet yesterday.

I decided to make my mother's day writing as the usual Monday post.

Behind every successful man is a woman. Well, for the now, the only woman behind me is my mother. So I'm sharing a few things that my mum directly or indirectly inculcated into my life from childhood

Dad, you also taught me so many things but today is for mum. There would be a time for you. That would be father's day special.
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#1: You are responsible for your decisions

She usually switch into this mode whenever she's correcting me and I'm being stubborn about it. She would say "It's your life O! I only brought you to this world. If you like destroy your life, you would be held accountable. I don't own you. God owns you." These things among several other things she would continuously rain on me.

We know how mother's scoldings hurt far more than cane lashes.

I guess I was stubborn then because I didn't understand what she was telling me. Thank God I understand clearly now. It has helped me remain focused and stick to what is more important.
I never blame anyone for my mistakes or failures. I suck up everything to myself and press on. Every event that play out in our lives are most times a response to a decision we once made.

Take responsibility for all your actions.

 

#2: Never let anyone discourage your dreams

When I was younger, I cared too much about what people would say about me. My confidence level was low. Whenever I had an idea, I sometimes share with my mum.I would ask questions like "What would people say? What would daddy say?"

She would immediately snap me out of it. She would say to me "Every idea in your heart is God-given. Believe in it and go for it and let no one discourage you."

 

#3: Be hard-working and disciplined

I have had the drilling of my life from  my dad and mum. Mum is the focus today. My mum is a trained teacher. When I was in primary school, I hated school. When I get back from school, mum would give very little time for play before study. She would teach me to do my assignments and force those books into my head by whatever means she could. 

I can remember those spontaneous sharp abara (Slaps) and knocks. They were so not cool. It paid off in the long run . I always come up top three in class every term in primary school. In secondary school, I had a good time keeping up with studies. Presently in college, I'm raising the bar.

Besides academics, as the first child, I wasn't spared from the "women ministry." I had to learn to do house chores, cook, and even go to the market (i mean big time market stuffs). 

I  can only mention a  few here. I'm grateful I went through those trainings because it had made a fine young man with purpose. I work hard (not muscles work Oh) and discipline myself to achieve any  course placed before me. This is why I put in a lot into this blog daily to make it more relevant. 

My mama

#4: Pray for your unknown wife

Seriously, the first time she told me this, it was really creepy.  If I could recall accurately, I would have been 15 years old. She always say that based on the fact that while she was a teenager, she often pray for her future husband and kids. It was weird at first until I learnt that our prayers are like seeds. It wouldn't hurt to be an early sower, you would reap the fruits in due time.

So, I often do the "dear future wife prayer." I remember saying "dear future wife, wherever you are, I love you!"  

I also apply it to everything yet seen. The point here is this: Learn to pray into your future.

#5: Keep God at the Centre of your life

My parents are Christians but it took me quite a while to join the fold. There were lots of preaching in the house to my siblings and I. That was the greatest gift I got in my home. We were consistently taught the right way. 

It took a while but I eventually received Jesus Christ. It wasn't about going for church meetings, It was more about being part of the church. 

Conclusion

I can never put all these things into writings completely but you can you take a cue from the few mentioned. Please, take a lesson from the five and ponder on it. I love you all.

Over to you
You know how much I love your comments. Tell me what you think about this post and share with me one thing you have learnt from your mother. 

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